The 10 Keys to Personal Power

Brian Tracy

Brian Tracy.com

Key 1: Clarity

“Have vision. Determine what you want to be, do or have in life. Have a sense of direction and know where you’re going. If you don’t have clear specific goals in life, you are doomed forever to work for others who do.”

The ability to determine what you want to be, do or have in life.  Have a sense of direction and know where you’re going.  If you do not have clear specific goals in life, you are doomed forever to work for others who do. Be decisive.  If you cannot make decisions readily, you’ll always work for people who can.  80% of decision should be made the first time they come up.  It’s easy to make decisions if you know what you want. Have a vision. To reach your dream, you need to have one. The best way to predict the future is to create it.  Your vision should excite you and make others involved. 

Key 2: Competence

“If you commit to excellence, opportunities will always come your way. The harder you work, the better you get.”

Every successful person is excellent at what they do.  Before they start, they commit themselves to becoming excellent. You must work hard to become an expert in whatever you want to become.

Key 3: Concentration

“Make the best use of your time. Ask yourself “is this the best use of my time?” before you start anything.”

Make sure you have a plan for your day to keep time in check. The biggest factor affecting concentration is rest. Concentration requires your mind to be calm. Always have a plan for whatever you are up to. When you sit down to work without a plan, you may easily get caught in activities like checking mails, Instant messaging (chatting) and browsing the web. Without a purpose, you are wasting your time.

Key 4: Common Sense

·      Train your mind

·       Think things through

·       Listen to your intuition

·       Learn from setbacks

Action without thinking is the cause of every failure. Listen to your intuition.  Your intuition is the best guide you have. Learn from your setbacks. Thin before you before you act. Your actions decides what kind of person you are. When you face an uncomfortable decision, your brain will spontaneously give you a fabulously credible rationalization for avoiding possible failure, embarrassment, or even minor discomfort. This is when your intuition kicks in to keep you safe from any harm or death.

Key 5: Creativity

Except the fact that every human being is a genius. The hallmark of creativity is asking questions. The people who are most creative ask the most questions.”

The more you keep doing what you’re doing, the more you’ll get what you’ve got. If you decide you are going to achieve a certain level of income, success, etc..   You will develop the ideas that will lead top creative potential and/or look for better ways improve your creativity.

Key 6: Consideration

“The quality of your relationships with other people will determine your success in life.”

• ·        relationships determine success
• ·        people skills
• ·        golden rule
• ·        most firings, result from personality conflicts
• ·        learn to listen

Develop the people skills you need to become a better communicator.  Take courses in listening, speaking, etc. If you were to learn one work a day, within 5 years, you’ll be the best educated person in history. The more words you have, the better the world is you create. Practice the golden rule “You’ll get out of life, what you put into it.”

Key 7: Consistency

“Dependable, steady predictable work is always superior to fast spurts of work.”

“Be consistent in your relationships, your family, friends, and work. Be the person that people can depend upon. That if you say you’ll do something you do it.”

 

Just be a steady person.  You don’t have to be a genius. Nobody is better than you or I.  They are just doing things a different way.  Every single greatest accomplishment in life is an accumulation of thousands of little accomplishments that nobody sees. Guard your integrity as a sacred thing.  Never compromise your peace of mind.  Don’t stay in relationships, jobs, etc. if it’s going to compromise your peace of mind.

Key 8: Commitment

“No success is possible without commitment.  The ability to commitment to yourself whole heartily is the basis of achieving all success.”

“Become totally absorbed in your work.  Be totally committed.”

To make a commitment is one of the hardest things people can do. If you are committed to your work, you’ll do more than any other person, regardless of their talent or ability. To be committed means you sweat, bleed, and tear to reach your goal no matter what obstacles are in the way.  

Key 9: Courage

“The fear of failure is the single greatest reason for failure in life.”

Stepping outside your comfort zone may cause anxiety, but it's a great way to learn courage. Being courageous means doing something despite the fear. Having confidence allows you to trust in your abilities and yourself, and realize that you are more than your fears. When you have confidence in yourself you will find it easier to take courageous action.

Key 10: Confidence

“You only get confidence by doing things over and over again.”

What this key is saying is you need to be brave and be confident to succeed. If you dont have courage to be successful then you will more likely fail if you fear failure. If you fear failure then you will be choosing the wrong and never succeed. What many people dont know if they are not confident of succeeding it gives them a reason why they will fail in life. So what people should learn about this is always have courage in being successful so you can choose the right. Don’t be scared to fail, you only learn from your mistakes, you don’t repeat them. Once you do you well gain more confidence by now having a idea of what not to do how to do it.

Reflection

The ten keys are simple traits that everyone should have by now. There is to achieve as long as you’re committed. By being committed you must have confidence and by being confident, that means you have courage. People well take you in consideration since you are competent. You are concentrated on your goals and your creativity well takes you far in life.

Habit 1: Be proactive

“Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that’s why it came first. It says, “I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.”

To be proactive means not blaming anyone for your doing. It was your choice and you’re the one who makes your own choices in life. Recognize that you can control everything that happens to you, but you can control what you do about it. You are calm, cool, and in control. I someone tries to sake you up (make you angry) nothing will happen.   

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

“Create your own destiny or someone else will” (Jack Welch)

The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. Once you choose, you have to work for it, just like your health. Wealth without health is not worth its weight in gold. If you are truly to achieve your destiny, you need to focus as equally on your health goals as your wealth goals. Also your job, sooner or later, all jobs come to an end. Therefore, keep your day job while you simultaneously build your business. Your day job becomes the seed money to support your business. When you are employed working for “the Man,” you help someone else to create his or her destiny, not yours. The only way to earn your true worth is by becoming an entrepreneur. Then transform your passion into your career.  Write out a list of your top five passions in life. What do you most like to do during your evenings, weekends, and vacations? Study this list to determine which one passion solves a need in the marketplace. Then transform that specific passion into your own business and you will have discovered the key to creating your own destiny.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

“Organize and execute around priorities”

Putting first things first means doing to the most important things in life. It means being clear about your priorities and acting on them. You have decided that you are ready to take control of your life and do it right. You are going to do the most important and urgent thing first before you focus on doing anything else. This habit is where we prioritize instead of slack off or procrastinate. Prioritizing includes clarifying your values and then setting goals based on the values. What can help you along the way is a planner of some sort to help you remember and organize your assignment, goals, and to-do list. Goals setting based on those values.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

“Think win-win or no deal”

To think win-win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick fic technique. It is a human based code for human interaction and collaboration.   Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing–that Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. Is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?  

Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood

“Diagnose before you prescribe”

See things from another’s point of view before sharing your own. This habit is the key to communication, because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are – a unique, on-of-a-kind, never-to be-cloned individual. People won’t share their deepest feelings unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, they will probably give you more than you want to hear. Try to understand instead of judging.

Habit 6: Synergize

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3) “

When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they’re open to each other’s influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences. The essence of synergy is to value and respect differences, to build on strengths and to compensate for weaknesses. The author says that many of us haven’t actually experienced synergy in our family lives or in other interactions. We’ve been shaped into defensive and protective communications or into believing that life or other people can’t be trusted. Therefore, we have a tendency to not open up to this highly effective principle which requires enormous personal security and openness and a spirit of adventure.

Habit 7: Sharpen the saw

Four dimensions of self-renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional

Sharpen The Saw discusses self-renewal, self-care, self-respect and self-improvement. You take care of my body by eating right, exercising and getting sleep. You spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. You find meaningful ways to help others. You learn how to become a better person each day.

Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Dale Carnegie

The master of interpersonal-relations had this to say:

Technique 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain

This principle means not only caring about yourself but also about others. People are not just animals, but there animals with feelings. All those wrongdoers blame ever body else but themselves. The person we're going to condemn and correct will probably justify him or herself, and condemn us in return. Be happy with what you have and don't complain case that would only make you selfish. The only reason why you would criticize someone is if they did something wrong. Don't hold grudges, it well only make the problem grow and grow until someone actually gets hurt.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

To bring out the best in people, show you appreciate them for being there for you and giving their time.  The difference between appreciation and flattery is simple, one is sincere the other insincere. Flattery is cheap praise. One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation. Stop thinking about ourselves for a while and begin to think of the other person’s good points, we don’t have to resort to flattery. Ounce they know you appreciate, they would look up to you and know you well always be there for them. To appreciate you value or admire the thing or person for coming into your life. Don’t ever criticize or else others will criticize you as well. I would apply this technique by not criticizing and loving each person that has come into my life. “   Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that's when you're most beautiful.” (Zoe Kravitz)

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Become interested in the person you’re talking too and become astonished of the persons interest and background. If you can picture yourself in another person’s shoes, who can understand what the other person has gone through, then that person would cherish you forever.  We are interested in what we want. So the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Tomorrow you may want to persuade somebody to do something, before you speak, pause and ask yourself “How can I make this person want to do it”.  

These reflections helped me realize that people can change into being a better person. Don’t criticize others until you walked in their shoes. Always say thank you and appreciate others for taking some of their time to be with you. Ounce they know you appreciate, they would look up to you and know you are always there for them, and so are you. This thought me that everyone has feelings and one little word you say can turn into a disaster. 

Winter Break

During my winter break, I didn’t so much but it was still fun besides sleeping in. For the first week of vacation, I was just delighted that I finally have time to sleep with no stress. Also, I would usually go to the park with my friends to play soccer which was cool. Then during the second week, I finally went to the snow with my cousins and bro. Even though it wasn’t so great since it took forever, getting a headache and we only stayed for an hour, it was still fun. Also I started practice with my high school, which was annoying waking up early and went shopping for Christmas. Then finally during Christmas, I meet some special and she gave me a present which I adore both and played video games the whole night with my cousins. Finally in New Year’s we did all the same thing but probably more fun since we put the jumper. Huhh then in my last week I didn’t really do much but meet someone, knowing her for 8 months <3.

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you…..

Rule #1: Have genuinely interested in other people 

“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get to other people that you can in two years by trying to get to other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

Open up to other and welcome them into your life. The more you ask questions and show them you are interested, the more friends you make. You won’t be nervous meeting new people and even asking someone out on a date. You can tell what you both have in common by their looks or the way they act or what they like and make a conversation over what they like it and what you like. 

Rule #2: Smile

1)   “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you,”

2)   “You don’t feel like something? Then the force yourself to smile.”

3)   “It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

A smile is an expression showing your happiness or amusement. Smiling can make you happy even when you’re not, or even make other people happy. Making people smile or smiling at them gives them or you a sign of friendship and that they are comfortable around you.  

Rule 3: Remember names

1)    “A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

2)    “If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble”

Remebering someones name is like remembering someone’s birthdate, if you don’t remember there birthdate why is there a reason you hanging out with them if you’re not interested in their value. Some ways to remember someone’s name is by focusing on the other person. It helps to learn a bit about the person, make eye contact or offer your hand. If you don’t hear their name or it was never said, ask for it.    

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.”  

To be a good listener means you well remember every bit of detail that person will tell you about themselves. You’ll remember their names, birthdates, address, hobbies, Etc.… Not only will being a good listener be a skill, but we’ll let you get as many friends as you want. Also, listening to others makes them know you are interested in them and they are interested in learning more about you.

Five active listening steps are: 
1.Stay Focused
2.Really Listen 
3.Allow periods of silence 
4.Repeat words or phrase it back to them
5.Understand there emotions behind there words

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the others man interest.

“The royal to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”

When talk to new people or guys, get them to talk about themselves. Many or most people like talk about themselves, especially men. By the way they act or dress you can tell some interest the person likes. Talk about things he/she likes so they can see you are interested in learning

Rule #6: Make the other person important-and do it sincerely.

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.” (John Dewey) “Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

By using this method, the person well know you care about them and know you are always there for the person. Accept people the way they are. Because most people are judgmental and critical, to be unconditionally accepted by another person raises that person's self-esteem, reinforces his or her self-image. It makes that person much more likely to accept you and follow your lead. Show your appreciation. When you appreciate another person for anything that he or she has done or said, they will like themselves and you more as well.

Reflection: This “Six ways to make people like you” because I learned so much about making new friends and how to treat other people to accomplishing my goal to bring them into my life. Im a very shy person which is why it is hard for me to maker neew friends. This has helped me out cvause now im more social and helpful to others by making them my friends.   

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

John R. Noe

1.    Make no small plans:  Go for the long run, always reach for the highest peck not the lowest. The farther you go the more fun your adventure would be. Always reach for the stars, don’t let fear drag you down. Everyone has a goal they want to achieve, make them high. We well always achieve are goal if you stick to it and we don’t give up. Ounce you aceive your first goal, you’re going to want to do another one and another, until you fulfill all your long term goals. The more goals you set, you more goals you get. Just like this quote, when you achieve a long term goal, you only you would know but the whole world well know what you accomplpished.    

2. Do what they fear: Lots of people let fear drag them down and let fear not accomplish their goals. Fear is in your head, maybe your fear to fail or that you well never accomplish your goal. No matter what scares you, learn how to acknowledge, confront and take ownership of your fear to keep it from holding you back in life. Many people might have the same fear that you have, take the bigger step and do what they fear. Courage can’t come into place unless you have a fear to face down. By owning your feelings, you are one step closer taking control of the situation. Like this quote by Les Brown, this is very true because lots of people let fear drag them down and not let them live there life’s at their full potential. Fear doesn’t let us accomplish our dreams. Ounce we overcome our fear, well accomplish every single last of our goals. We will continue this process as we live our life’s and not let fear drag us down. 

3. Are willing to prepare: Those who are prepared in the present, are prepared for the future.  Whenever someone is prepared there not stressed to rush or do anything last minute. They have no worries and relax until the time comes to do what you have to do. Those who are prepared have a plan for the future and know what their goal is. One way is to be prepared is to be ready for anything that’s likely to come: get all your survival equipment, prepare your skills, plan for your work projects, get your affairs in order, think through your arguments, and so on. Just like this quote, preparation can take you to being manager, opening up your own business, or even being prepared of having a child. Know all you routines and steps that you are willing to achieve to be prepared and ready for any occasion. 

5. Are teachable: You know you’re teachable when people give you input. When people feel free to give you a word of improvement, it’s a sign that you are teachable. Nobody wants to clean up a mess if the person can’t receive a difficult word. You know you’re when you see measurable growth and character development in yourself. I you’re changing for the better, you’re teachable. If you’re not the same person last year, that means you have changed for the better. In this quote, not everyone is perfect so you learn and learn so you won’t make that same mistake or error again.