Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to
like you…..
Rule #1: Have genuinely interested
in other people
“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere.”
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming
interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get to other
people that you can in two years by trying to get to other people interested in
you.”
“Ask questions to other people, questions that they
would enjoy answering.”
Open up to other and welcome them into your life. The
more you ask questions and show them you are interested, the more friends you
make. You won’t be nervous meeting new people and even asking someone out on a
date. You can tell what you both have in common by their looks or the way they
act or what they like and make a conversation over what they like it and what
you like.
Rule #2: Smile
1) “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you,”
2) “You don’t feel like something? Then the force yourself to smile.”
3) “It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”
A smile is an expression showing your happiness or amusement. Smiling can make you happy even when you’re not, or even make other people happy. Making people smile or smiling at them gives them or you a sign of friendship and that they are comfortable around you.
Rule 3: Remember
names
1) “A
man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
2) “If
you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble”
Remebering someones
name is like remembering someone’s birthdate, if you don’t remember there
birthdate why is there a reason you hanging out with them if you’re not interested
in their value. Some ways to remember someone’s name is by focusing on the
other person. It helps to learn a bit about the person, make eye contact or
offer your hand. If you don’t hear their name or it was never said, ask for it.
“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred
times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in
you and your problems.”
Rule 4: Be
a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be
an attentive listener.”
“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred
times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in
you and your problems.”
To be a good listener means
you well remember every bit of detail that person will tell you about themselves.
You’ll remember their names, birthdates, address, hobbies, Etc.… Not only will
being a good listener be a skill, but we’ll let you get as many friends as you
want. Also, listening to others makes them know you are interested in them and
they are interested in learning more about you.
Five active listening steps are:
1.Stay Focused
2.Really Listen
3.Allow periods of silence
4.Repeat words or phrase it back to them
5.Understand there emotions behind there words
“The desire to be important is the
deepest urge in human nature.” (John Dewey) “Helping people feel important and appreciated
works magic.”
Five active listening steps are:
1.Stay Focused
2.Really Listen
3.Allow periods of silence
4.Repeat words or phrase it back to them
5.Understand there emotions behind there words
Rule 5: Talk
in terms of the others man interest.
“The royal to a man’s
heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”
When talk to new people or
guys, get them to talk about themselves. Many or most people like talk about themselves,
especially men. By the way they act or dress you can tell some interest the person
likes. Talk about things he/she likes so they can see you are interested in learning
Rule #6: Make
the other person important-and do it sincerely.
“The desire to be important is the
deepest urge in human nature.” (John Dewey) “Helping people feel important and appreciated
works magic.”
By using this method, the
person well know you care about them and know you are always there for the
person. Accept people the way they are. Because most people are judgmental and
critical, to be unconditionally accepted by another person raises that person's
self-esteem, reinforces his or her self-image. It makes that person much more
likely to accept you and follow your lead. Show your appreciation. When you
appreciate another person for anything that he or she has done or said, they
will like themselves and you more as well.
Reflection:
This “Six ways to make people like you” because I learned so much about making
new friends and how to treat other people to accomplishing my goal to bring them
into my life. Im a very shy person which is why it is hard for me to maker neew
friends. This has helped me out cvause now im more social and helpful to others
by making them my friends.
